Are you KIDDING me?! Have you been following along with the story about pop star Bebe Rexha (Meant to Be f/ Florida Georgia Line, I’m a Mess). She’s nominated for a couple of Grammy’s and is SO excited to attend the awards show… AS SHE SHOULD BE! What an honor! But, she’s seriously pissed… AS SHE SHOULD BE about the fact that her team has reached out to a bunch of designers to dress her for the event… and they won’t do it because of her size. SHE. IS. AN. 8. But, for the love, even if she was an 88… THAT IS INSANITY!

Whew. This topic has me fired up and I know I’m not the only woman who fully backs Bebe’s criticism of the fashion industry. Click here to see her Instagram video.

What. Is. Wrong. With. Our. Society?!!!

Women… men… children… we all come in different colors, shapes and sizes and I do not know why this is such a difficult concept for some people to grasp.

I do not know what it feels like to have been body shamed for being too large. But, I have felt it MANY times the opposite way - for being too thin. Some will roll their eyes at that and honestly… that’s part of the problem. It’s not OK to judge one size or the other. Big or small. Hurt is hurt. Period. And, I’ve felt that hurt. Especially after I lost 20 lbs. on my already small frame after a health issue a couple of years ago. I knew I was entirely too thin. I didn’t like the way I felt or looked. I was chugging milkshakes on the daily to try to gain weight. Nope, that’s not the same as trying to lose weight. I would imagine a milkshake is a whole lot more fun, let’s be real. But, the challenge and the feelings ARE the same. Self-consciousness… frustration.

As a kid, I was always smaller… thinner. And, I got picked on at times for it. My little girl is built exactly like me and she already has feelings about it. We’ve talked about it. I intend to KEEP talking about it. I want her to know that she is healthy and strong and made exactly as God intended. It’s such an important conversation.

No doubt a super cool designer with straight up common sense and a good heart will dress Bebe for the Grammy’s and I have no doubt she’ll look spectacular! But, I’m sorry she had to experience body shaming. She’s gorgeous, curvy, sexy and healthy! Why should a person feel sad about any of that?

I’m rootin’ for ya, girl. And I know about a zillion other women have your back, too.

Jennifer Waldman